Am I Codependent? Relationship Quiz

By: Ira Kurylenko
Updated: 4 months ago
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Codependency is a tricky psychological construct that hides its true destructive power. So, what if you sometimes neglect your own needs to help your friends and relatives? You're just a kind person if you can't say "no," right? And this is how codependency hides its true power. The small codependency symptoms here and there may not seem big or destructive, but the general picture paints the detrimental effects of dysfunctional relationships.

Moreover, many people have a hard time identifying these signs in themselves. They all seem like mundane personality traits. You may think you're just a considerate person, but is it really so? This codependency test will check how many symptoms you show and their severity. This way, you can take an outside look at your personality and its main characteristics.

Codependency Personality Signs

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Generally, people think of codependency in terms of romantic relationships. And while this is an important part of partnerships, codependent people build dysfunctional relationships with society in general. It also includes your friends, acquaintances, and family, the latter being a crucial factor in shaping your personality and nurturing codependency.

But what are the signs? What is it like being codependent? It's like being a human chameleon, adapting to fit others' expectations and losing sight of your own identity. It's as if you've mastered the art of juggling everyone's emotions while neglecting your own. You're like a sponge, soaking up all the responsibilities and struggles of those around you.

Codependency is tightly connected with low self-esteem and the feeling of loneliness. One of the most precise terms to describe a codependent person is a "people-pleaser." Do you consider yourself one? One of the telltale signs is the inability to say "no," no matter what you're asked. Do your personal needs matter less than the needs of others? They should not!

Codependency Test Meaning

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This test has gathered some obvious and hidden signs of codependency to help people get an outside look at their personal traits. Often, we don't even notice the harmful ways of our relationships. Sometimes, we choose to ignore them. With this quiz, you'll get an answer about how you treat yourself. Remember, self-love is the foremost form of love in a person's life.

But what can you do if the test shows codependency? Note: This quiz is not meant to diagnose or treat psychological issues. It only shows the behavioral pattern and what it CAN mean. In case you suspect codependency issues, it's always recommended to visit a medical specialist. Therapy can be an effective tool for managing the inequality of power in relationships.

With some self-awareness and a dash of courage, you can break free from the codependent trap. Remember, it's okay to put yourself first, to set boundaries, and to embrace your own needs and desires. Do not sacrifice your needs. Healthy independence and self-love are the keys to mental happiness.

Am I Codependent? Relationship Quiz Questions

codependency test Do you often find it difficult to say no to others?
  • yes, all the time! I just cannot refuse

  • just with my close ones

  • no, it's not that difficult for me

  • not sure

codependency test When in a romantic relationship, how much time do you spend with your partner?
  • as much as I can; I'm definitely every day with them!

  • I try to spend much time, but we still have our own plans

  • I prefer to have freedom and not to be tied to a person

  • not that much, or it'd be boring very soon

codependency test Are you an empathetic person?
  • yes

  • no

  • I'm not sure

  • naturally yes, but I try not to act upon it

codependency test Do you think society is kind in general?
  • yes, but only if you conform

  • there is nothing kind about society as a whole

  • not really, it can be if I try very hard

  • yes, I believe I have it easy with society in general

codependency test Do you tailor your personality to match different people you interact with?
  • yes

  • no

codependency test How easy is it for you to make a decision?
  • it's reaaaaly hard; I need advice

  • it's hard (I'm a libra tho)

  • it's easy when it's about something trivial

  • a piece of cake!

codependency test Do you need people to like you?
  • yes, that's the only way I can feel comfortable

  • yes, that would make feel better but I'm okay having SOME people who don't like me

  • I don't really care what people think about me

  • I'd say I need just my friends to like me

codependency test How do you handle criticism?
  • on no, I'm very bad at it

  • well, only a bit and if it's constructive

  • criticism is fine

codependency test Others' opinion is
  • more important as your own

  • as important as your own

  • only important if it's a professional's opinion on their field of expertise

  • not really important compared to yours

codependency test Remember your last relationship (or the current one), do you feel like your partner doesn't support you enough?
  • yes, and it's true for most of my relationships

  • yes, but that's the issue of this particular person

  • they are supportive enough

  • no long-term relationship yet

codependency test When a person asks you for help, you
  • see if you can help if it's your friend

  • abandon what you are doing and try to help anyone who asks

  • will help but only if you are not busy and sure you can deal with the request easily

  • nope, I better things to do

codependency test A situation: both you and your partner have planned a meeting with your respective friends today, but there's no food home and somebody has to do shopping. Who would it be?
  • I

  • my partner

  • we'll do some kind of random draw

  • nah, we'll just order something then

codependency test TW! Have any of your partners ever abused you?
  • yes, and I was still with them

  • yes, but they didn't get a second chance

  • no, never

  • prefer not to say

codependency test Do you think people around you admire your personality?
  • I'm sure they don't; I'm not that amazing

  • maybe...probably, idk

  • oh yes, they definitely do

  • no idea

codependency test Are you a control freak?
  • yes

  • no

codependency test Have you ever felt like you are a magnet for abusive or troubled people?
  • my gosh, yes, how did you know?

  • sadly yes, but I still try to avoid them

  • no such tendencies

  • not sure

codependency test Would you rather be in an unhappy relationship or alone?
  • unhappy relationship

  • alone

  • depends on how unhappy the relationship is

codependency test What about your self-esteem?
  • eh, what's that? don't have such a thing

  • sadly, it's very low

  • it's okay-ish, I guess, could be better for sure

  • it's fine, I know my worth

codependency test Can you easily communicate your feelings and emotions with your partner/best friend?
  • yes, but only with a long-term partner

  • yes, but only with my best friend

  • I find it hard, but I still try to talk

  • yes, I don't do that ever

codependency test How often do you feel loneliness/abandonment?
  • very often, I'd even say all the time

  • not that often, but when it hits, it hits hard

  • not often, it's manageable

  • I don't feel loneliness or abandonment

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