Should I Move In With My Boyfriend?

By: Ira Kurylenko

Updated: 5 months ago

Should we move in? That is the question that becomes a major milestone in any relationship. When you are at that point of uncertainty, it’s crucial to make the right choice. In most cases, it’s not the question of “when,” it’s the matter of “reason.”

Unfortunately, no major psychological research can tell you the exact time needed to pass before a couple is ready to move in.

For some people, it’s an almost instantaneous match and the right decision. For others, even a year is not enough for this major change.

Now, if you are considering moving in with your boyfriend but are not sure yet, this quick quiz is meant to clear some things for you.

Quiz With Boyfriend

This quiz is meant to evaluate your own readiness for the change of your living situation. However, it doesn’t mean that you alone are responsible for such a drastic decision. On the contrary, we urge your boyfriend to take this quiz as well! Either alongside you or after. You can compare your results to get a definite answer.

In any case, even if the result doesn’t suit your inner drives, the test as a whole gives you at least 20 topics to ponder about and discuss with your boyfriend. Some of the things are an obvious topic like a financial situation, others may be hidden milestones. It’s better to discuss it all now instead of keeping it until the better “living together” times.

Questions to Ask Before Moving in With The Boyfriend

Before setting in stone the decision, you should consider some major details about your relationship, your goals, and expectations for the future. You'll find many of them inside the quiz, but here are some of the most important questions.

How do you handle conflicts or disagreements? Discussing conflict resolution strategies can help you both navigate challenging situations more effectively.
What are your views on finances and financial planning? Discussing money matters can help you establish transparency and joint decision-making about finances.
What are your thoughts on marriage and children? This question is crucial if you're considering a long-term commitment. It’s never too soon to ask about the CURRENT view on family planning.
What are your expectations regarding privacy and personal space? Discussing boundaries is essential to ensure both partners feel respected and comfortable in the relationship.
How do you envision our life together in the future? This question allows you to explore your boyfriend's perspective on your shared future and helps identify potential areas of difficulties.

Moving in With Boyfriend Checklist

Now, here’s a short step-by-step guide on how to actually move in with your boyfriend! You'll be surprised at how easy that actually is.

Take this quiz and get a positive result.
Share it with your boyfriend to learn his view on the matter.
Discuss your living together expectations and plans.
Agree on your future home.
Find a new one in case you need a new rent.
Pack your stuff.
Move in.
Enjoy!

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Should I Move In With My Boyfriend? Questions

Have you ever lived in a dorm?

yes, and I hated it
no
yep, it'd be okay if I had a better roommate
yes, it was fun

Based on your experience, are you and your boyfriend willing to compromise?

we haven't had such a situation yet, so idk
neither are very flexible when it comes to compromise
I'd say one of such is more willing but we work it out
we both can compromise

Do you trust your partner with your deepest secrets?

What do you think of his friends?

I like them, they are cool
a couple of them are okay, the rest not so much
I don't like them, we don't hang out
I haven't met them yet

A personal question but an important one: Have you already pooped with your husband in the house?

oh god, no!
well, not like with him present at the very moment
yes, I did!
no, and I never will probably

How about your financial situation?

we both have stable income and can afford the rent, living expenses and saving
we both have stable income, the rent will take up a greta part of it, but we can manage
only one of us is working but the money is enough for rent
one of us/we both already pay rent so there won't be any increase in expenses
either way, we will have a bit of a hard time paying rent (probably living from pay check to pay check for some time)

Is any of you good at cooking?

yep, we both are good/decent
just one of us but they are is good
we both suck at cooking
one of use is half decent the other sucks

Have you already had a major fight?

yes and we managed it successfully
yes, but it took a bit of time and effort to resolve things
yes, it went down horribly
not yet, just minor miscommunication

How would you rate communication in your relationship? (5 being great, 1 non-existent)

What do you value most in your relationship?

overpowering love and passion
tender love and comfort
loyalty and trust
having a strong shoulder to lean on

What do you feel when thinking about the future with your boyfriend?

excitement
uncertainty
fear
hope

If you want to move in but your boyfriend does not...

I'll be greatly disappointed
I'll probably break up with him
I'll try to understand his reasoning at least, we'll see then
that's fine if he needs more time

Let's start with an easy one: How often do you say "I love you"

probably around every say/every other day or so
not that often, maybe every other week
rather rarely
we haven't yet

What's your situation about tidiness and cleaning?

we are both very tidy; a bit of clean freaks even
one of us is very tidy, the other is a bit messy
we are both a tiny bit messy
I'm not sure how my boyfriend is on this aspect

When you spend time together, are there any awkward silence moments?

yes, it happens
it happened at the beginning of our relationship, not anymore
no, we never have such moments; no silence for us
there are moments of silence but they are rather comfortable

Have you ever gone on a trip together for more than a weekend?

yes, it was amazing
no
yes, but we did fight more than usual
we are planning to go soon

Are you a person who values personal space or are you more touchy feely and physical? (with your partner, not strangers)

I need my personal space
I'm physically welcoming so to say

What about your partner? (with you)

he does need personal space even with me
he's rather physical

How many nights a week do you spend together?

several for sure
every weekend. just a night or two
a couple of times a month
a night?? the whole night? no, we don't do that

Last question: Do you believe that moving in will save your relationship?

no saving needed, we are good
yes, that's part of my reasoning
I'm not sure but I'm willing to try
That's not why I want to move in but living together will certainly make some things easier

About Ira

Meet Irene, the quiz mastermind who is constantly pushing the limits of what we know. She is a true quiz connoisseur, crafting brain-bending questions that challenge us to think outside the box. Her quizzes are the perfect blend of fun and educational, making her a fan favorite.