Are You Top or Bottom? Spicy Time!

By: Ira Kurylenko

Updated: 5 months ago

Sexual preferences in humans are complex and can be influenced by a combination of biological, genetic, hormonal, psychological, social, and environmental factors. There is never just one factor that sets your ways for life either.

Our preferences tend to change with time. The major foundation of our sexuality remains intact but the minute details, habits, and preferences are ever-changing.

As we try new things in life, we determine whether they are to our liking or not.

One of the first preferences people determine in their sexually active life in the Top/Bottom dilemma. And many do solve it quickly with a bit of flexibility of being Switch.

Usually, it’s quite easy to notice which role feels more natural for you. However, it’s not always as black and white. This is where this quiz comes in handy.

We do take a third-party look at your daily preferences and behaviours and translate them into a more intimate setting. In most cases, such small daily clues can tell a lot about the boudoir tendencies. But it’s not 100% accurate! Some people just switch to a whole new persona in the bedroom!

Are You Top or Bottom Quiz

Sexual preferences are built based on several factors, not just our physiological predispositions. In fact, “outside” influences are just as important when it comes to the development of habits.

Thus, our intimate objective, preferences, and habits are formed based on the following factors:

Biological and Genetic Factors
Hormonal Influences
Neurological and Cognitive Factors
Psychological Factors
Social and Environmental Factors
Personal Experiences

It's important to recognize that sexual preferences are not static and can be fluid over time for some individuals.
The above mentioned factors all play a great role in shaping our sexuality. For some people, the neurological aspect plays a more significant role, for others, it might be social factors, or personal experiences.

All are all different. Our bodies are complex mechanisms that have not been fully studied yet.

As science cannot answer all our questions yet, not to mention find certain genes responsible for sexuality preferences, we can just explore ourselves. The surest way to become in tune with your personality is by trial and error.

Of course, such sexuality quizzes can be of great help as well. They can nudge you in the right direction or give an objective summary of your personality tendencies. Provided you do answer truthfully.

Disclaimer: Remember, these questions are just for fun and shouldn't be taken too seriously. Relationships are based on a multitude of factors beyond simple preferences. The most important thing is to communicate openly with your partner and ensure that both of your needs and desires are respected and fulfilled.

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Are You Top or Bottom? Spicy Time! Questions

Would you say you are in tune with your sexuality?

yes, I feel it well
I'm still discovering
honestly, I'm bad at discovering myself
I haven't even started yet

if you were blindfolded right now, who would you rather have there with you

my partner ofc
a bff/family member for safety
I'd rather be alone
can't I just take it off?

Have you ever tried shibari?

yes, I liked being "shibaried"
I like "shibaring" somebody
I like it both ways
I don't like it either way

What's your preferred stress relief method?

I let go and just don't think; maybe binge some show or just lie in silence
physical activity helps
I try to switch to my hobby
my friends/family help

Is it easy for you to open up with your partner fully, to have complete trust in them?

yes, it's easy with the right person
I need some time, but I can do that for love
not easy for me
it's complicated

What's your ideal date night?

some day activities
dinner at a restaurant
stargazing on the beach
a home-cooked dinner

For your weekends, you prefer ...

a small trip somewhere outside my city
meeting with friends
mostly enjoying my hobbies, maybe visiting some creative places
just relaxing at home; reading, binging, etc

Do you have any particular kinks?

yep, quite a few of them
a couple
I may have one
nope

Is your home routine organized or more sporadic? (like chores, cooking, self-care)

organized
sporadic

In a dance, do you usually lead or follow?

lead
follow

When it comes to romantic gestures, do you prefer to be on the receiving end or initiate something special?

receiving!
I'm the initiator
I like both equally
I'm not a romantic person at all

How about your confidence levels?

I'm very confident
I'd say I'm confident enough
it depends on the situation and people around
nope, not really confident

Okay then! Which of the following kinks seems more like your style?

BDSM
roleplay
edging
impact play

Do you consider yourself a good leader?

yep, I like being a leader
I can be a decent leader but that's not really my cup of tea
no, I'd be a terrible leader
I'm an okay leader

When going on a holiday, do you usually meticulously plan everything or go with the flow?

I prefer to plan everything myself
no, I just go with the flow
I like when it's all planed by my partner, I just enjoy it all
I can do both, usually try to find balance between the two

Are you more shy or outgoing?

shy
outgoing

Are you a highly emotional person?

yes, I'm very emotional
in certain situations, yes
not very emotional
I'm not sure

Do you prefer to receive or to deliver pleasure?

receive
deliver
I like both equally
hm, I need to think about it

Do you have a job where you have to make difficult decisions?

yes, and I enjoy it
yes, and I'm so tired of it
not really but I wish
no, and I prefer it that way

How do you feel about taking risks?

confident
doubtful
scared
cautious but enthusiastic

About Ira

Meet Irene, the quiz mastermind who is constantly pushing the limits of what we know. She is a true quiz connoisseur, crafting brain-bending questions that challenge us to think outside the box. Her quizzes are the perfect blend of fun and educational, making her a fan favorite.